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When Life Hands you Lemons

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When life hands you lemons, you can’t always make lemonade.

Hello friends! I hate that it has been so long since you have heard from me. My life has been a bit chaotic and out-of-control. This is a good day to check-in with you and share a bit of what has been going on behind the scenes. I never intended for the break to be this long. When life hands you lemons, just roll with the punches.

Taking a Break

Each year at Christmas and New Years, I take a purposeful break from the blog and business. This allows me to spend time with beloved family and friends. It also gives me a chance to recharge my inner battery and reflect on the year ahead. I dream of projects to accomplish in the coming year, which makeovers to share with y’all, seasonal ideas, thrifty decor and so much more.

Not so Beachy

Just as the calendar rolled into 2022, my mother-in-law became ill and was hospitalized. Much family drama quickly ensued. My Honey Bee, John, is the oldest of 5 siblings. One sibling was living with my MIL, and it quickly became apparent that he was not taking care of her or her needs. Two other siblings lived close-by and refused to step in to take action for her either. Sad, right? Whatever you are imagining right now…multiply it be 10.

Our number one focus and priority was for mom and what would be best for her. We immediately headed to Boynton Beach, FL.

Honey Bee and I live 10 hours away, and the youngest sibling and his family live 20 hours away. These two siblings were the only ones to step-up and do what was necessary. Honey Bee and I have basically moved to south Florida for a month to handle everything, while putting our own lives on hold. Thank goodness we had the support and back-up from the youngest sibling and his wife.

We have gotten a quick education on elder care and what needed to be done. In very quick order we handled:

  • Getting mom released from the hospital into a rehabilitation facility
  • Obtained durable power of attorney – to handle financial and medical decisions
  • Interviewed real estate agents
  • Emptied the contents of her home and staged for real estate listing
  • Contacted “A Place for Mom” to find assisted living facilities
  • Subsequently visited 8 facilities on two different coasts and deciding on one
  • Hired an elder care attorney to insure that we are doing everything correctly
  • Contacted agencies for qualifying monies
  • Bought furniture, art, necessities for her new apartment in assisted living
  • Disconnected utilities and subscriptions
  • Forwarded her mail to our home in Georgia
  • AND SO MUCH MORE….

But, that’s not all!

Eight days after being in Florida, my own father was admitted to the hospital. He has now been there, just shy of 3 weeks. He too will be heading to a rehabilitation facility this week. More than likely, he will also be transitioning to assisted living. Dad is very ill with end-stage renal failure – and has begun dialysis treatments. My two brothers have been wonderful navigating dad’s medical care and hospital visits. Needless to say, I feel a lot of guilt over not being with my dad.

After much debate and self-talk, I decided that I needed to stay in Florida: to be my husband’s support system and to finish what we have started for my mother-in-law. I will travel back to Georgia next week to begin handling my dad’s future.

Bless you!

Thank you so very much for allowing me to vent and tell you just a small part of what I have been up to. A new blog post will be coming out tomorrow for our Thrifty Style Team.

16 Comments

  1. I’m so sorry to hear what you have been going through. It is hard when our parents reach this stage of life and even harder if you are the only one willing to help. I will be praying for you and your family. Hope to see you back soon!

  2. You and your family are in my prayers. Take of yourselves so you can do what needs doing…

  3. Oh my goodness; no wonder you have taken a longer break than planned. Family must come first and you are doing the right thing. I pray that all works out for you, your husband, your mother in law, and your father and both families. That is a lot to handle.

    1. Suzanne Lee says:

      Glad you have your MIL problems conquered.
      Hope you do the same for your dear Dad.
      Where is your poor little dog in all this chaos?
      Wishing the best for your family.
      I am sure you miss your grandson.

  4. Debra Casebere says:

    Vicky – prayers to you, honey bee, your MIL, and the rest of your families. What an ordeal! I unfortunately, have a good understanding of what you have been through and will continue to do for the near future. God bless the 2 of you and the youngest family members for having the knowledge, strength, and dedication to do what is necessary. Many people just can’t handle this type of stress. And prayers for your father and your entire family.

  5. Janet Hodges says:

    Oh my. I am so sorry. One parent care is so difficult both emotionally and physically I can’t imagine 2. Praying God will give you grace and comfort during these difficult times.

  6. Patty Laverentz says:

    Prayers for you and your family.. God bless..

  7. Aileen Warren says:

    So heartbreaking, but so glad you are there for your mother in law as it seems she desperately needs you both. Your dad is in good hands and I’m sure you are in contact as much as possible. Wishing you strength and sending love to you and John.

  8. Sorry to hear all this, but glad you have been there to provide care. Hopefully, if you are ever in this situation your family will step up and care for you without complaint.

    1. I am so sorry you have to go thru all this, you are doing the right thing, she is so lucky to have you guys, prayers for your Dad also

  9. Sending prayers for all and encouragement for you and your husband so you can have the energy and ability to continue as family caregivers. Many blessings to all .

  10. Diane M Loviza says:

    My thoughts are with you and your family. It’s a very difficult journey mentally, emotionally, physically and financially as we watch our parents age. That being said, there is also beauty, tender moments, shared laughter and those times are magical. My husband and I lost all 4 of our parents in one year, all while he was undergoing chemo for leukemia. I would give anything for a single moment with any of them…Stay strong, keep your sense of humor and cry when you need a release. You’re doing a wonderful thing, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Sending love and hugs.

  11. Caring for our elderly parents is very hard but the time and effort is worth it! My mother had Alzheimer’s and my father was in bad health. My father would apologize for being “a burden”. I quickly reminded him that they took care of me for 20 years. I could take care of him now. Praying that God will give you strength, wisdom, and grace.

  12. Darlene Marlow says:

    Oh my Vicki! I’m so sorry for all that you and John are dealing with. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers for strength during this difficult time. Please let me know if I can help on this end. Hugs

  13. I am so sorry that life has been tough for you lately. You and your husband are awesome to travel to Florida to take over care of your mother-in-law. Glad your brothers could handle the care of your father while you were away from home. My father-in-law is in rehab for a broken hip. Dave has had his hands full with work, caring for me, and visiting his dad each evening.

  14. So sorry to hear about all you and your husband have been going through. It is hard when parents get older. I made the decision after taking care of mom for a month that I did not like her staring at four walls, so we talked and I moved in with her. I had 7 1/2 years of ups & downs -mostly ups and a lot of laughs. She lived to be 98. Wishing you all the same – make good memories.

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